TBoz on TLCs Legacy Touring with Chilli and Beating the Odds
T-Boz on TLC's Legacy,
Touring with Chilli and Beating the Odds
By
Allison Kugel
TLC's Tionne
"T-Boz" Watkins' life is one filled with overcoming insurmountable
odds and finding blessings in unexpected places. Watkins was diagnosed with sickle
cell disease at the age of seven and spend much of her childhood in and out of
hospitals due to episodes with the potentially fatal condition. She was told
she wouldn't make it past early adulthood. Her family's move from Des Moines,
Iowa to Atlanta, Georgia when Watkins was nine, and a chance meeting former
singer and music executive Perri "Pebbles" Reid and her then-husband
L.A. Reid would launch T-Boz, Lisa "Left Eye" Lopes and Rozonda
"Chilli" Thomas into the stratosphere as the biggest selling girl
group in music history, taking home four Grammy awards and selling sixty five
millions albums, worldwide throughout their career.
For all it's success,
TLC has endured a roller coaster of ups and downs over the last thirty years,
the biggest blow being the loss of group member Lisa "Left Eye" Lopes
in a 2002 car cash, and taking away one third of the lightning in a bottle that
made them superstars. Resolute in their will to go on, T-Boz and Chilli have
continued to record music and tour, most recently co-headlining a tour with
Nelly and Flo Rida which continues through this summer.
These days T-Boz is
reveling in the most recent chapter of her life as mom to daughter Chase and
son Chance, author of the 2017 memoir, A Sick Life, and co-creator of
her newly launched line of CBD-infused healthy and beauty products, aptly
called TLCBD.
I recently caught up
with T-Boz, and our lengthy conversation ran the gamut with nothing left off
the table.
Allison Kugel: Is
there a prominent memory or flashback from your life, whether it's a really
great memory that you love to re-visit, or even something that wasn't so great,
that helped shape you?
Tionne
"T-Boz" Watkins: I always think about the first time I saw each of my
kids. No matter what’s going on in my life, that will give me a good feeling
and a smile. Anytime I’m having a terrible time, I try to think about what the
best thing in my life is, and that is my two kids. I think about the first time I ever saw them,
and that’s a feeling you can't really describe.
Allison Kugel: At
what age did you feel yourself make the transition from a girl into a
woman? Was there a particular event, or
did it just kind of hit you one day?
Tionne
"T-Boz" Watkins: You know when I think I felt like a woman? It's
probably when we did the video for the song, Creep. Everybody thought we
were so mature looking in that video, and I didn't think of myself like that until
grown men started trying to talk to us. Before that there was always this
stigma about us [looking] so young.
Allison Kugel: Is that when you felt like a woman, or when
you felt like people saw you that way?
Tionne
"T-Boz" Watkins: I think that's when people saw me as a woman, but
then that started making me feel like I was a woman, you know what I mean? And when
you start seeing yourself as that, you start acting a little differently, like,
"Oh, I got some grown and sexy going on now (laughs)." I used
to be so skinny and I would wear two pair of pants to look curvier. I was tired
of guys saying, "She's cute." I was like, when are they going to say,
"She's fine," and when am I going to get some grown woman hips?
Allison Kugel: Do you
talk to Lisa "Left Eye" Lopes when you're alone? And has there ever
been an unmistakable sign that she's around you?
Tionne
"T-Boz" Watkins: No, I don't want to talk to anybody who's passed
away, because that's spooky (laugh).
Allison Kugel: That stuff
doesn't spook me out. I think it's kind of cool to think we can communicate
back and forth with those who have passed.
Tionne
"T-Boz" Watkins: I don't talk to anyone that passed away in my
family. But I think about them, or I talk about them. That’s my way. I'm
one of those people where I don't even like to go to grave sights because that's
not a good memory for me, and I don't feel like they know I’m there. But I also
feel like they know the love I have for them, and I always have psychics come
up to me and tell me that Lisa is with me.
Allison Kugel: Do
they say something specific enough where you know they're for real? Because you guys are famous, do they give you
something to let you know it's the real deal?
Tionne
"T-Boz" Watkins: Yeah, absolutely, I know it's the real deal. They
tell me that she watches over my kids, but the stuff they've told me, there is
no way they would know it! Only me and Lisa would know that stuff. At first it
creeped me out a little bit, because I was like, "Wait a minute. Does that
mean she's watching me all the time?" Then I got used to it, and it's not
a bad thing because she's watching over us.
Allison Kugel: I’m
sure she's not watching you in the shower and that kind of thing, but who knows
(laugh).
Tionne
"T-Boz" Watkins: I hope not, but it's not like we haven't seen each
other naked before. We were like family, so we did everything together.
Allison Kugel: Were
you happy with the way TLC's final album (the group's fifth and final album,
titled "TLC" was released in 2017) turned out? Do you feel it was
a good swan song?
Tionne
"T-Boz" Watkins: No, I don't. I feel like it wasn't worked good
enough. I don't even like the song Haters; I'm going to be honest. I
think that was a terrible choice as our second single. I believe there were
better songs we should've gone with, that were deeper. We have a song called American
Gold. It was right before Trump came into office and there was all this
uproar with black men who were dying and being abused and killed by the cops,
including my cousin who was murdered by cops and shot 18 times with an AR15,
and he was mentally ill. The reason that song is so important is because we hit
on all of that, and you know how you bleed and die for your American gold? Just
being American is tough these days, especially when you're black. That song
would have really hit home in a lot of places, kind of the way Waterfalls
did, if the right visuals had been put to it.
Allison Kugel: You
think the music video for Waterfalls was a key element for people
getting the song?
Tionne
"T-Boz" Watkins: Some people didn't get Waterfalls at first,
until the visuals came [with the music video] and brought that song to life. If
visuals were put to American Gold, it could have been a big song. It
could have been deep for certain people, especially for people who fought for
our country. At the end, the album was too rushed, and I felt forced to not
finish some of the songs that I could have finished.
Allison Kugel: Let's
get into your CBD line, which you've named TLCBD. Over the years you've
had a rough time recording music and touring, while dealing with flare ups and
hospitalizations from your sickle cell anemia. On this current TLC tour (co-headlining
with Flo Rida and Nelly), you've said that using CBD kept you healthier.
Tionne
"T-Boz" Watkins: Oh Absolutely! Before I started taking CBD, you can
go back through our history and they would tell you, "T-Boz is sick, T-Boz
has ruined another tour." It's not a cure, but since being on it, I don't
get sick as often. I’m way stronger and when I do get sick it's not as bad or for
as long. On this last tour, I broke my rib and I was able to still perform with
a broken rib. A long time ago that would have sent me into a sickle cell
crisis. Because I was on CBD, I was able to go to the hospital for one day, get
fluids for the pain and some lidocaine patches and take some CBD cream, bomb
and tincture, and I made it through. I didn't ruin the tour. This is the third
tour I've been on that I haven't gotten sick or had to cancel.
Allison Kugel: Knock
on wood, that’s awesome. How did you figure out that CBD could ease your
symptoms?
Tionne
"T-Boz" Watkins: The medicines that the doctors give you keep you in
a weakened state. If you're weak, it's easier to get sick because the sickle
cell attacks the weakest part of your body.
If you stay weak, you're going to stay sick, so I was sick every three
months and going into hospitals. Someone suggested CBD and I tried it. At first,
I didn't feel any different. Then I started noticing that I was feeling stronger.
I wasn't getting as sick as often, and I don't even have a good working spleen.
Your spleen is what helps you fight off colds and diseases. I lost my spleen,
but I grew two accessory spleens which is totally crazy. I didn't know you can
grow an organ back. God has been looking out for me! Any time someone had a
cold around me, I would always catch the cold to the 10th power, but now I
wasn't even catching cooties (laugh).
Allison Kugel: For
systemic issues you ingest it, and for injuries you use it topically…
Tionne
"T-Boz" Watkins: Yeah, we have a balm which is kind of the
consistency of shea butter for our line, TLCBD, and then our CBD
tincture is what you drop on your tongue. We have beauty oils for wrinkles and
keeping your face together. It's moisturizing, and after wearing all that make
up and being in different climates every other day, it really moisturizes my
skin.
Allison Kugel: Was Chilli cool with you naming your CBD line
TLCBD? Or was she wanting a cut because you're using the TLC name?
Tionne
"T-Boz" Watkins: It's just a play on words. At first it was called Cure
Holistic, but there is a Cure CBD. When one of my partners came up with TLCBD,
usually I hate using anything TLC-related, but it was cute. I said that at
first too, but when I talked to all my people, they said that it's just a play
on words, it's not a TLC product. I don't get mad if she goes somewhere and
says "Chilli with TLC," so no, she wasn't mad. But if it was a TLC
product, and it just said "TLC," then yeah, I would owe her a cut.
Allison Kugel: What
is the wisest advice you've ever been given, and how has it impacted your life?
Tionne
"T-Boz" Watkins: My momma told
me if I kept my morals, my integrity and my character intact, she would support
anything I did. That's what's gotten me through. She also said to always be the
best in anything you choose to do. She said, "I don't care if you choose
to be a garbage truckdriver. Make sure you pick up that garbage good, girl."
At the end of the day, it’s about respecting myself. Nobody else will respect
me if I don't respect myself, and it starts with me.
Allison Kugel: Good Advice.
Tionne
"T-Boz" Watkins: That's the best advice I could have been given, especially
in this industry, at 19 years old, with a whole bunch of nasty men trying to
just prowl and take advantage of young girls. That never bothered me, because I
always had my self-respect, self-esteem and self-worth.
Allison Kugel: What do you have faith in?
Tionne
"T-Boz" Watkins: God! That's pretty much it. Period.
Allison Kugel: How do
you define God for yourself?
Tionne
"T-Boz" Watkins: How do I define God? I’ve never been asked that
before. I know I have a relationship with God, and I know that God exists for
me. I don't push my beliefs on anybody else, but I know when people, and even
doctors, walk out of the room and they can't explain why I'm still here (referring
to her sickle cell disease). I know there’s something up there higher than
me that made it possible. When your doctor comes out and says, "I don't
even know how she's doing this, because I didn't do it…"
Alison Kugel: This is
something that I ask everybody, and it's really something to meditate on if you've
never thought about it before. What do you believe you are here on this earth,
as Tionne "T-Boz" Watkins, to learn? What do you think your soul came
here to learn in this lifetime?
Tionne
"T-Boz" Watkins: I used to always wonder why I got through things, like,
why I lived and why my cousin died, and why we had the same disease. I used to
wonder why I'm here and what my purpose was. Then, not so long ago, maybe the
last seven to eight years, I figured my purpose here was to help people, whether
it's through music or through sharing my testimony and being a ray of hope for
someone. I've also learned to push past my fears. I used to hate speaking in
front to people. I’ve learned to face my fears, and I’ve learned that I'm an
open book. And I like to learn… about people, about things… it just makes me
more of a people person so that I can better help someone else.
Allison Kugel: That
falls in line with what the late Dr. Maya Angelou said. "When you learn,
teach. At our best, we are all teachers."
Tionne
"T-Boz" Watkins: Yes! When I talk to the kids that I speak to, I try
to help them from the inside out. When it comes to health-related issues, for
example, if you have cancer, lupus, sickle cell, AIDS, or even if you are 100%
healthy but you're continually stressed out, you can die. So if you already
have an ailment and your boyfriend is cheating on you, or you're getting beat
up at home, or your child's on drugs, or whatever the stress may be; you have
to try to control the stuff that you can control and get as much stress out of
your life as possible, because it will kill you. But it's especially true if
you're already dealing with an illness. I’ve just learned to be a better person;
the best version of me. I'm working towards that every day, so I can do what
I’m here to do, and live whatever my purpose is meant to be on this earth. I
truly believe that's to help people.
Allison Kugel: I was
going to ask you what you're here to teach, but I think you just covered that!
Tionne
"T-Boz" Watkins: (Laugh) That was a good question, though. I
like your questions.
Allison Kugel: Thank
you. How are you feeling about your upcoming 50th birthday in April?
Tionne: I want to do
something special, because usually I just go to a Mexican restaurant to eat for
my birthday. I don't really do much, because I’m kind of a homebody. But for my
50th, I think I should celebrate all year long, because I never go on
vacation. My plan is to go to Bora Bora,
Tahiti, Thailand. I’ve always wanted to stay in one of those huts in the ocean,
or the big bungalows with the pool. I'm going to one of those countries, if not
all three. I canceled a tour that we had around my birthday. They wanted me to
work on my birthday, that ain't gonna happen, especially my 50th!
That’s a big celebration. They were going to try to do a big sickle cell
telethon type thing. I don't know if
that's going to happen, because it might take too long to put together, and my
birthday will pass by then. Celebrating 50, for me, is a super blessing being
that I was told I wouldn't live past 30.
Allison Kugel: Wow!
Tionne
"T-Boz" Watkins: I’m like YEAHHHHH!
Allison Kugel: That’s amazing!
Tionne
"T-Boz" Watkins: That's a celebration within itself. Yeah, it's a
blessing and I love it.
Allison Kugel: What
are you hoping the year 2020 brings you, in all areas of your life?
Tionne
"T-Boz" Watkins: Health and joy, because joy to me is better than
happiness. Happiness is momentary. You can get a car, and then a new car comes
out and you want that one. So, joy, to me, is the kind of peace that you
can't buy. If you have joy in your heart,
that has to be the most peaceful kind of love and light. I just want to reach
that, whatever that is. I want peace, love, joy and health, and that's
it. I want all my loved ones around me to be healthy, too. If we have that, I’m
Gucci.
Tionne "T-Boz" Watkins established her CBD line, TLCBD, fueled by the desire
to share ethical, effective CBD products with her fans. Visit TionneWellness.com to learn more
about TLCBD. For TLC's upcoming tour dates, visit OfficialTLC.com.
Allison
Kugel is a syndicated entertainment columnist, author of the memoir, Journaling Fame: A
memoir of a life unhinged and on the record, and owner of communications firm, Full Scale Media. Follow her on Instagram @theallisonkugel and at AllisonKugel.com.
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